The capacity and extent, the power and depth of human mind is miraculous and impressive. It is a huge storehouse of events, occurrences, emotions and information which get indexed appropriately at the time of action. Each happening has a place to belong to in the mansion of human mind. The moment you start digging the layers of memories, series and sequences open up-- to be remembered, to be relived.
Past in fact is no where yet the sheer fact that the impressions get imprinted on the canvas of mind and protected with something like a chemical wash for longer life makes it possible to relive and rejoice in the moments which have already passed.
Time gets embedded in the womb of existence nurturing on memories-- living and thriving to be retrieved later to create a virtual world . Just a trip down the memory lane and everything lights up!
Yes, there is nothing we can do about the past in terms of being able to change it or experiment more with life which has already been lived till this point. Yet its role in shaping us up as the person as we stand at this point cannot be denied. Time keeps running, its speed does not make any difference to the fact that every passing second, even the smallest fraction thereof is converting present into a bygone second. Yes, it slips away from the hands like smooth sand but in the process creates castles and structures building up the life that we have lived so far. This city of personal past exits within us with numerous residents in shape of various memories. Pick up your date for the day and relive it. It makes you feel fresh and young even if tainted with regrets at times…
"Zindagi laut kar wapas kabhi aayi nahi,
Hai ajab baat ki ek yaad murjhayi nahi”
Monday, 24 March 2008
Sunday, 16 March 2008
Acceptance
Acceptance is an important word ..if you try to fathom the depth and meaning associated with it. The environment surrounding us seems to be a game of performance and acceptance all over. Our own performance and our acceptance thereof, our own performance and its others’ acceptance, others’ performance and our acceptance thereof…acceptance is an important word. The never ending loop of accepting yourself and accepting others, as you are, as they are!
It is so easy to come across so many situations where every thing could just settle peacefully if you “accept” the things the way they are. One truth lies beneath everything, that happenings are beyond personal control. Here too, what is required is an acceptance of what you get in return of what you do. Be it a situation and/or people, the seemingly tough riddle of life suddenly gets solved : just incorporate acceptance..
Have a look below:
Accept that what you did in life was all you could do, accept that way you are trying to plan your future is the best possible strategic design to carve out your future, accept that you are the only available decision maker for your self, accept that you are the best decision maker for your self, accept that whatever you did at one point in time, was the best thing to do at that point in time, accept that what ever set of people you have around is the best you could get, accept that there are certain relationships available but would never be of the kind you are looking for, accept that there is a nagging feeling of loneliness which is there to stay, accept that dreams are meant to be shattered 98% of the times, accept that the remaining 2 % would give you all the satisfaction possible in life, accept that reality has the potential of scaring you, accept that there is a limit to endure pain, accept that beyond that it brings a numbness which is worse than pain, accept that there is always a possibility to feel good about everything around you, accept that you just have to accept to feel better about everything around you, accept that whatever happens- happens for good , accept that what ever happened-happened for good, accept that even if you don’t feel that way, it will hardly make any difference, accept that men and women are two different species even at the psychological level and they think and act differently, accept that 9 out of 10 times husbands would not put a crying baby to sleep, accept that kids do not grow up overnight, it takes years, each year consisting of 365 days, and each day in turn of 24 hours, accept that the battery of various remotes finishes off earlier than expected, accept that more the number of gadgets you have access to, more is the probability that one or two of them would be in a need of repairs, accept that the list to do never meets an end, accept that whatever advise you offer to your dearest siblings or friends, they will never learn from your mistakes, they will learn from their own, accept that lost opportunities are lost for ever, accept that time never moves in reverse gear, accept that you are the best person to pamper your self, accept that you should be the one to remember yourself at all times, accept that being good to others may bring the good ness back to you, even if from other sources, accept that keeping hope doesn’t do any harm, accept that miracles do happen, accept that there are no miracles in life , accept that life is unpredictable, accept that you may spend a life time and may never understand either yourself or the person who is one with whom you have spent your life with, ….accept that the list goes on and on…accept that whether you accept or not---life goes on…
It is so easy to come across so many situations where every thing could just settle peacefully if you “accept” the things the way they are. One truth lies beneath everything, that happenings are beyond personal control. Here too, what is required is an acceptance of what you get in return of what you do. Be it a situation and/or people, the seemingly tough riddle of life suddenly gets solved : just incorporate acceptance..
Have a look below:
Accept that what you did in life was all you could do, accept that way you are trying to plan your future is the best possible strategic design to carve out your future, accept that you are the only available decision maker for your self, accept that you are the best decision maker for your self, accept that whatever you did at one point in time, was the best thing to do at that point in time, accept that what ever set of people you have around is the best you could get, accept that there are certain relationships available but would never be of the kind you are looking for, accept that there is a nagging feeling of loneliness which is there to stay, accept that dreams are meant to be shattered 98% of the times, accept that the remaining 2 % would give you all the satisfaction possible in life, accept that reality has the potential of scaring you, accept that there is a limit to endure pain, accept that beyond that it brings a numbness which is worse than pain, accept that there is always a possibility to feel good about everything around you, accept that you just have to accept to feel better about everything around you, accept that whatever happens- happens for good , accept that what ever happened-happened for good, accept that even if you don’t feel that way, it will hardly make any difference, accept that men and women are two different species even at the psychological level and they think and act differently, accept that 9 out of 10 times husbands would not put a crying baby to sleep, accept that kids do not grow up overnight, it takes years, each year consisting of 365 days, and each day in turn of 24 hours, accept that the battery of various remotes finishes off earlier than expected, accept that more the number of gadgets you have access to, more is the probability that one or two of them would be in a need of repairs, accept that the list to do never meets an end, accept that whatever advise you offer to your dearest siblings or friends, they will never learn from your mistakes, they will learn from their own, accept that lost opportunities are lost for ever, accept that time never moves in reverse gear, accept that you are the best person to pamper your self, accept that you should be the one to remember yourself at all times, accept that being good to others may bring the good ness back to you, even if from other sources, accept that keeping hope doesn’t do any harm, accept that miracles do happen, accept that there are no miracles in life , accept that life is unpredictable, accept that you may spend a life time and may never understand either yourself or the person who is one with whom you have spent your life with, ….accept that the list goes on and on…accept that whether you accept or not---life goes on…
Monday, 3 March 2008
Failure
Handling failure is probably one of the toughest circumstances in life, but do we ever plan for it?
The desire to succeed gives impetus to all faculties of the human existence, bringing out better than the best, leading to out performance. Even while nothing can be done to control the result, it is the faith on our abilities and hope to succeed, which initiates the whole cycle.
Uncertainty is the continuous state of life; still we keep faith in existence, very much echoed in the "going concern" premise in Accounting. While living the day-to-day life, this uncertainty is actually ignored and attempts are made in the direction of the cherished goals believing that things are going to stay and turn out the way we want them to be.
But what happens when things do not turn out the way we dreamt and strived for? Even while there is an all-pervasive realization that "it" may go wrong, do we ever prepare ourselves to face failure?
For some people, the way to manage failure is to keep telling themselves that things would go wrong and secretly hoping that they turn out as desired. Restraining one self from feeling excited or happy about the possibility of a dream coming true. If the things go wrong one would not look ridiculous to one self or anyone else. Rather, one can claim, “see, I knew it wont happen.”
There might be another set of people who reason that preparing ourselves to face failure is equivalent to giving up hope to succeed.
I experience a pattern in chasing my dreams. A dream is born and cherished. Efforts are made to make it a reality. The efforts are honest and sincere and marked with perseverance but it is always difficult to hold on to the suspense of…RESULT.
While talking about this feature, I now got to understand why I cannot handle watching India-Pak cricket match where only few balls are left to decide the fate of the match. The suspense coupled with the desire to win is too much to handle. In contrast, it is relatively comfortable to watch through a match that is extremely lop-sided and the result is predictable. I may quit it in between, but because of boredom, not because excitement is too much to take!
These days I am the source of most of the information and knowledge for my kids. While shouldering the responsibility of grooming them to believe in themselves, I am finding an interesting difference between them with respect to acceptance for failure. My boys are aged 3.5 and 2 years. They both like to play with blocks and construct the tallest structures in the world. If ever the set of blocks they were working on falls on ground, the elder one gets too upset and frustrated resulting in anger and crying at climax while the younger one just echoes an, “oh ho”. Yet another difference is that the frustrated guy picks up the blocks crying all the time and starts over again. On the contrary, the younger one looses interest most of the times.
Possibly, the more you are hooked to your goal, higher is the incapacity to handle failure.
Failure is part of life as much as success is. While the attitude should be to look forward and work for your dreams, there should be an acceptance for failure too, if that happens to be your share. It might be easier said than done, but has the potential to increase the happiness and satisfaction quotient in life:)
The desire to succeed gives impetus to all faculties of the human existence, bringing out better than the best, leading to out performance. Even while nothing can be done to control the result, it is the faith on our abilities and hope to succeed, which initiates the whole cycle.
Uncertainty is the continuous state of life; still we keep faith in existence, very much echoed in the "going concern" premise in Accounting. While living the day-to-day life, this uncertainty is actually ignored and attempts are made in the direction of the cherished goals believing that things are going to stay and turn out the way we want them to be.
But what happens when things do not turn out the way we dreamt and strived for? Even while there is an all-pervasive realization that "it" may go wrong, do we ever prepare ourselves to face failure?
For some people, the way to manage failure is to keep telling themselves that things would go wrong and secretly hoping that they turn out as desired. Restraining one self from feeling excited or happy about the possibility of a dream coming true. If the things go wrong one would not look ridiculous to one self or anyone else. Rather, one can claim, “see, I knew it wont happen.”
There might be another set of people who reason that preparing ourselves to face failure is equivalent to giving up hope to succeed.
I experience a pattern in chasing my dreams. A dream is born and cherished. Efforts are made to make it a reality. The efforts are honest and sincere and marked with perseverance but it is always difficult to hold on to the suspense of…RESULT.
While talking about this feature, I now got to understand why I cannot handle watching India-Pak cricket match where only few balls are left to decide the fate of the match. The suspense coupled with the desire to win is too much to handle. In contrast, it is relatively comfortable to watch through a match that is extremely lop-sided and the result is predictable. I may quit it in between, but because of boredom, not because excitement is too much to take!
These days I am the source of most of the information and knowledge for my kids. While shouldering the responsibility of grooming them to believe in themselves, I am finding an interesting difference between them with respect to acceptance for failure. My boys are aged 3.5 and 2 years. They both like to play with blocks and construct the tallest structures in the world. If ever the set of blocks they were working on falls on ground, the elder one gets too upset and frustrated resulting in anger and crying at climax while the younger one just echoes an, “oh ho”. Yet another difference is that the frustrated guy picks up the blocks crying all the time and starts over again. On the contrary, the younger one looses interest most of the times.
Possibly, the more you are hooked to your goal, higher is the incapacity to handle failure.
Failure is part of life as much as success is. While the attitude should be to look forward and work for your dreams, there should be an acceptance for failure too, if that happens to be your share. It might be easier said than done, but has the potential to increase the happiness and satisfaction quotient in life:)
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